The origin of the almost universally used phrase “How did you become so …” on the internet was from a video that was originally about a different topic and process. Although these sentences were spoken for a completely different subject and context, they deeply resonated with me. Since then, they come to my mind almost every day, and I find myself immersed in deep thoughts.
How did we once support losing teams? What happened that you started supporting the winning team all the time?Ece Temelkuran
The spark that these sentences ignited in my mind grows as I ponder, and I find myself oscillating between two extremes with constantly added new questions. The thought of becoming so estranged from myself that I would stop asking these questions eventually terrifies me. Therefore, I wanted to make a note in history and started jotting down the questions I have been asking myself for months. Perhaps there are some that sound familiar to you:
- How did we forget where we came from and suddenly feel like we belong to different classes?
- When our idols were symbolic historical figures, how did we turn into much-worshipped businessmen or nouveau riche virtual celebrities?
- Since when have we started measuring ourselves against values imposed by others?
- Concepts like Honor, Loyalty, Friendship, Humility, Shame, Generosity, and Loyalty have become boring clichés to us; when did this happen?
- How did arrogance turn into a lifestyle for us, and why did we define ourselves with logos we carry on us?
- While we once targeted amounts we spent at a dinner for an ideal living standard, why are we still unhappy?
- When our definition of wealth was to lead a happy and peaceful life, why have million-dollar thresholds become insufficient for us?
- How did we become so alienated from the concept of helping?
- Since when did we pull back our hands when a friend reaches out for help?
- Why are we incapable of even making a phone call, let alone spending time or energy, to help someone?
- When did our threshold of sensitivity make us reluctant to call and ask about people’s well-being, even in cases of illness, accidents, or even deaths?
- Since when did we choose our circle of friends based not on their personalities but on their status or wallets?
- How did we, instead of those close to us, start chasing other people, trying to make them happy due to their career positions?
- Why has our first question to new people we meet become “What do you do?” instead of “How are you?”
- And how did we become people who form their perspective on others based on the answer to the question “What do you do?”
- Since when did we become interested in people’s successes and failures rather than their characters?
- How did the mischievous smile that appeared on our lips when we saw someone driving a luxury car turn into admiring looks?
- Instead of extraordinary, unique, and rare things, why do we all crowd into shopping malls, insistently look at the same shops, and try to buy the same things?
- How can we feel different while becoming more and more alike by going to the same places, eating the same things, and wearing the same clothes?
- Since when have we believed that everyone can do everything, rise to any position, and adopted the feeling of jealousy that the idea that we are all equal imposes on us?
- When did we reach the consciousness of being equal to each other and quickly adopt the envy it instills in us?
- How did we rapidly transition from modesty, such as “A little is enough,” to the lie of “You can do it! You can succeed! Everything is possible!”?
- How did the obsession with being successful become such an obsession for us, and why did we measure it with money?
- While it is possible to be successful in anything, how did we come to believe in the utopia of being successful in everything?
- When did we take responsibility from the divine and divine powers and burden it on ourselves?
- How did we normalize the definition “Business is one thing, friendship is another”?
- When did we forget that there would be something missing even when we are successful and that we would inevitably sacrifice something?
- Even more sadly, the things we sacrifice have become people instead of time?
- How did the fear of failure start to govern us? And why have we become people who blame everything except ourselves?
- On the other hand, why do we feel the need to confirm and show our successes?
- Why did we abandon ourselves and our humanity for the sake of social acceptance and fear of exclusion?
- Thus, when turning people into commodities, how did we not notice that we were also pricing ourselves?
By the way, when did we become so successful?